-What's new?
-How's life?
2. Treat her like a normal person. Remember she has a lot of great things going on in her life besides the pregnancy. Ask her:
-What have you been doing lately?
WHAT NOT TO DO
1. Don't be negative. Don't ask her:
-How's the weight gain?
-How many pounds have you gained?
-How's your weight?
She'll bring it up if she wants you to know. Besides, women generally do not discuss their weight. Be prepared to share your weight if you want to ask her her weight.
2. Don't be nosy. Don't ask:
-Midwife or hospital?
-Natural or Cesarean?
-Breastfeeding or formula?
She's sick of these questions.
3. Don't stereotype:
Just because she's pregnant doesn't mean that's all she wants to talk about. She might not be one of those pregnant ladies that likes to bemoan every tiny little pregnancy phenomenon. Maybe she's sick of talking about it. Maybe that's all anyone talks to her about. Maybe it's not that big of a deal to her. For you to try to make it a big deal makes you annoying. Back off. Go get pregnant yourself if you want to know so much about pregnancy. Or if you merely want to compare stories or worse yet horror stories, go read pregnancy stories online, but please, leave her out of it. She doesn't need the drama. Really.
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